מושגי ליבה
Initiating connections, assuming positive outcomes, and showing vulnerability are key to making friends as an adult.
תקציר
Making friends as an adult requires deliberate effort, overcoming fears of rejection, and initiating interactions. Assuming people like you can lead to positive outcomes. Research shows that repeated interactions and vulnerability deepen friendships over time.
סטטיסטיקה
An American study from the 1980s found that volunteers who believed their interaction partner liked them acted in ways to make this belief come true.
Research by Erica J Boothby at Cornell University revealed that strangers like us more than we realize.
Study of older adults in Manitoba showed those who thought friendship took effort were less lonely five years later.
American psychologists Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder found no risk of social rejection when participants initiated conversations with strangers on a train.
Rebecca G Adams highlighted the importance of continuous interaction for thriving friendships.
ציטוטים
"People underestimated how much they were liked, a phenomenon that Boothby and her colleagues labelled ‘the liking gap.’"
"Initiation is particularly important for people who find themselves in new social settings."
"The lesson here is that if you want to make friends, you should commit to showing up somewhere for a few months."