Kernekoncepter
Prioritizing one's own needs and boundaries over the constant desire to please others is a crucial step towards personal fulfillment and inner peace.
Resumé
The content explores the personal journey of someone who used to be a people-pleaser. The author describes how they were often recognized as someone who is kind, seldom angry, and consistently cheerful, as they prioritized the comfort of those around them. However, they struggled to express their own feelings, especially the negative ones, and found it challenging to say 'no' to things that didn't align with their needs.
The author highlights the distinction between genuine kindness and the need to please others, which often involves prioritizing others' approval over one's own personal boundaries. They share a specific incident during their semester exams, where they were torn between their values and the fear of judgment, ultimately unable to say 'no' to their friends' invitation to cheat.
Through various experiences, the author has discovered that true fulfillment comes from aligning with their own principles. They started to learn more about themselves, journaling, and addressing the root causes behind their people-pleasing behaviors, which they trace back to past problems or "trauma from the past." With the help and support of those involved, and by opening up to their parents, the author has finally found their inner peace.
Statistik
During a personal interview with a psychologist, a friend mentioned that the author's weakness is that they tend to be a people-pleaser or try too hard to please others.
In a counseling session, almost all the author's classmates wrote "You're too nice" in the section of their paper titled "My Weaknesses."
Citater
"There is a difference between wanting to be kind to others and wanting to please others. True kindness comes from empathy and a genuine desire to help someone with good intentions, whereas the need to please others often involves prioritizing others' approval over our own personal boundaries."
"For some, the fear of rejection looms large, but for others, like myself, the fear of saying 'no' can be just as overwhelming."