Core Concepts
Happiness is not about achieving a state of eternal bliss but rather about developing antifragility through embracing hardships and painful emotions, as explained by positive psychologist Tal Ben-Shahar.
Abstract
In the pursuit of happiness, it is crucial to understand that true happiness does not mean avoiding pain or discomfort but rather growing stronger from adversity. Tal Ben-Shahar emphasizes the concept of antifragility, where strain and pressure lead to personal growth and resilience. By focusing on spiritual, physical, intellectual, relational, and emotional well-being (SPIRE), individuals can indirectly pursue happiness by embracing challenges and finding meaning in their experiences. Small changes in daily routines can have significant impacts on overall well-being and resilience, contributing to a lifelong journey towards happiness.
Stats
"If I wake up in the morning and say to myself, I want to be happy, I’m going to be happy no matter what..." - Ben-Shahar writes in his book Happier, No Matter What.
"Learning to accept and even embrace painful emotions is an important part of a happy life," - Ben-Shahar told us in an interview.
"Now, take a moment or two to step back and recognize the true value and intention of what you do..." - Ben-Shahar writes.
"I don’t think there’s a point before one is unhappy, after which one is happy," - Ben-Shahar told us.
Quotes
"If they were truly happy, their reasoning goes, then they wouldn’t experience such adversity. If they were truly happy, then they would be happy."
"Happiness doesn’t make us immune to hardships; it makes us antifragile."
"I don’t think there’s a point before one is unhappy, after which one is happy."